Siblings: As they are…

Buddies or Rivals?

“I did not hit you…..I simply high-fived your face”Meh!!!

Sibling rivalry is the jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and sisters. The rivalry starts right after the birth of the second child and it usually continues throughout childhood.It can be an extremely daunting phase for the parents ,but can be dealt with ease and tact if suitable time, structure and attention is given to the children ,INDIVIDUALLY.

What do they do?

1. Name calling 2.Arguing 3.Shaming 4.Lying 5.Stealing 6.Hitting 7.Tattling

Why do they do ?

To get the parents attention , To connect with the sibling, To feel powerful, To make the other person look like a villain,To become the parent’s favorite.

Good news!!!It is normal to have some rivalry in siblings.It helps them too! 

Hey Parents…….Try the green light to red light guideline to bring peace love and happiness at home.

Green light :Normal Bickering, minor name calling,small fights Parents – Keep calm,Stay out of it.

Yellow light : Volume is going up, nasty name-calling, mild physical contact, threats of danger Parents – Stay calm,Inquire,acknowledge each child’s viewpoint,help resolve conflict

Red light: Dangerous Situation, physical or emotional harm is about to or has occurred Parents – REACT,RESPOND,attend to the hurt child first, review the rules, and possibly impose a consequence.

Reference : https://centerforparentingeducation.org/